Science says women cheat more than men!
We believe that men are more prone to cheating than women, but science says that women cheat more than men! Today we uncover the reasons why women cheat, physically and psychologically. Scientists are uncovering that women in long-term relationships are sexually adventurous and likely to have secret lovers. Recent research is showing that women get bored in the bedroom which causes them to struggle with monogamy. Wednesday Martin, Anthropologist and author of Untrue interviewed sex researchers and fellow anthropologists on female infidelity. She explains the female libido is grossly misunderstood and eager for pleasure which adds to the reasons why women cheat.
“False notions that women have lesser libidos, that women are more naturally monogamous and that it’s easier for women to partner for life,” explains Martin are being expelled. We now know that “women don’t like sex less [than men] — but they do get bored of sexual sameness.” Men have higher levels of spontaneous desire - which is responsible for the sudden feeling of wanting sex. Women are more responsible for responsive or triggered desire which happens when the idea of sex is suggested to you, by your partner, through reading or television.
The misconception that women cheat for emotional reasons while men cheat for sexual reasons is null and void. The infamous website Ashley Madison interviewed women who used the site to vet candidates for intimacy. These women reported being in sexless or orgasm-less marriages and were seeking sexual satisfaction. They were happily married and wanted to remain in their primary relationships.
Further, research from Dr Martha Meana from the University of Nevada claims 'institutionalism dampens a women's libido in a long-term relationship more than it does men. Men are satisfied with regular sex - women need variety and novelty experiences. Take for example Gabriella, 28 and from Sydney claims to have had multiple affairs since her first long-term relationship. She explains, “I love sex and I get bored easily, but men take [an affair] as an affront to their masculinity. They all think they should be ‘enough’ for me and when I try and discuss ways of keeping the interest alive they treat me as if I’m not ‘normal’. What should ‘normal’ be — a woman who lies back and puts up with boring sex just for the sake of it? That’s the story women have been sold and it’s just wrong.”
This is backed up by research from Meredith Chivers at Queen’s University, Canada. Both men and women were invited to watch porn and have their sexual arousal monitored. She explains that Straight men were mostly turned on by heterosexual sex and women having sex with women, while straight women had a varied ‘arousal menu’. From man on man, woman on woman, men and women having sex and even images of an erection. While we believe “men get turned on by everything and the truth is that a woman’s body responds to more sexual stimuli.”
So the best thing to consider is that while you may be getting sex regularly, maybe it isn’t novel enough, or maybe focus more on giving your partner multiple orgasms before ejaculating. Try having sex outdoors, try Sensate focus or try scheduling a sex date and start with a massage.
Enjoy, Lexi, XX