Chatting about cheating
Chatting about cheating isn't easy stuff. But whether you've cheated or you just want to understand your partners understanding of cheating, chatting about cheating is key to a healthy relationship. A surprising new survey from the BBC asked 2000 adults about their sexual preferences and revealed that 49%of men do not think kissing someone else was cheating. Further, 51% of men didn’t consider cybersex cheating. Under half of all respondents considered browsing a dating app to be a breach of trust (40%). Women show a stark contrast to males in that over 70% consider kissing and cybersex cheating. Family and relationship psychotherapist Dr Fran Walfish explain that these men are in “denial.” She goes on to say that they cannot tolerate the feeling of guilt and “rationalise it by telling himself it’s not cheating.”
Dr Walfish defines cheating as “going outside of your relationship to meet gratification, whether emotional, physical or sexual.” She explains that one-time acts of adultery can be rectified if the guilty shows remorse and rebuilds trust and relationship. She explains serial cheaters as having a “low recovery rate.” Therefore chatting about cheating early on in a relationship is key. Knowing your partner's history, have they cheated or been cheated on? What do they consider cheating?
However when we consider that love is confluent on both parties ensuring the other parties needs are met - if one person cannot provide they can even suggest their partner practice polygamy. Cheating and polygamy are very different things. One is open and honest while the other is deceitful. Try reading Cheating, Porn and Erotic Fantasies of Aussies and Negative thought patterns that affect frame of mind to better communicate your fears and desires with your partner. Next, start discussing what you understand cheating to be:
- Five Types of Infidelity.
- Cheating defined
- Cheating vs an Open Relationship
- All For Threesomes!
- How to have Multiple Partners without being a Jerk
- Talking about cheating
- Chatting about cheating