5 Types of Infidelity.
Today we will disucss the 5 types of infidelity and the 3 tiers of cheating
This infidelity occurs when one physically cheats on their partner, but is in love and attached to their partner. It is driven by situational circumstances and opportunity. It is more likely when risk-taking behaviours, alcohol or drug use are present. The more love the cheater feels for their partner the more guilt they will experience as a result of their sexual infidelity.
Some people cheat not because they want to cheat, but due to their need for approval that comes from the attention of others. This infidelity is based on fear and rejection.
When a person has little or no emotional attachment to their partner but may be committed to it for the long haul as life partners they may seek a connection elsewhere. They are unlikely to leave their spouse, but they long for intimacy and a loving connection that's now missing at home. Marital problems have to be quite severe to push a spouse to leave for their romantic affair.
Conflicted Romantic Infidelity
While society idealises the idea of true love, it also pushes the idea of monogamy and exclusivity along with it. When people experience love and sexual desire for more than one person at a time. Often those cheating try not to cause any harm to either lover, but them keeping this secret so as not to hurt another can end up hurting everyone.
You’ve heard it before, the sex was bad, they don’t have a sex drive, I had to seek it elsewhere. This type of cheating occurs when there is little to no sexual desire or attachment, but there is a commitment to keep the couple together. People in these situations seek external stimuli to satisfy their own needs that are being unmet at home. Further, we can understand cheating through the different areas of which cheating are manifested, the physical the emotional and online.
3 tiers of cheating:
More generally we can understand cheating through 3 different forms.
The easiest to understand, physical cheating is being sexually intimate with someone other than your significant other. One of the most common forms of cheating, it is emasculating and a form of physical rejection for men while women are more inclined to see beyond the physical activity if they know no emotions are involved. Simply put physically cheating affects men and women different ways, men take it as them being rejected while women may be more likely to move beyond it.
Can begin as an innocent friendship which the emotional cheater finds themselves sharing thoughts, dreams and an emotional closeness that should be shared with their significant other. Emotional cheating can be more crippling to a relationship than physical cheating. Physical cheating means there may still be an emotional connection, while emotional cheating usually means the cheater's heart may no longer be in the relationship.
Becoming a growing problem among couples cyber cheating has a multitude of forms, from cam girls to emotional cheating over chat, watching porn, online dating and more. Cyber cheating is harder to catch than other forms of cheating and can even lead to emotional or physical cheating.
If one party feels insecure in the relationship they are more likely to have a lower threshold of tolerance when a partner crossing a line defined as cheating. Further is one has religious beliefs they view questionable behaviour as cheating. Women are more likely than men to consider lying or withholding information cheating.
Evolutionary Psychology identified 27 distinct behaviours that constituted cheating in 2013. THey highlighted than men see cheating in physical terms while women view emotional bonding, financial support, and behaviours implying a relationship status. Below is the list of activities considered to be cheating. Lets not the first half is much more physical while the second half has much more of an emotional and romantic background.
- Penile/Vaginal intercourse
- Oral sex
- Taking a shower together
- Kissing on the lips
- Emailing/Texting pictures of themselves naked
- Texting erotic messages
- Watching a pornographic movie together
- Sleeping in the same bed
- Holding hands
- Staying in the same hotel room
- Forming a deep emotional bond
- Spending lots of time together
- Sitting in lap
- Accompanying to a formal event
- Going out to dinner
- Talking on the phone several times a week
- Giving a large amount of money to the other person
- Kissing on the cheek
- Sharing secrets
- Supporting the other person financially
- Hugging for more than 10 seconds
- Calling when upset about their relationship partner
- Taking a road trip out of state
- Telling dirty jokes
- Calling when upset about work
- Hugging briefly (less than 10 seconds)
- Giving a small amount of money to the other person
End of the day cheating is subjective, and thus we must talk to our partner about what we are comfortable with, what we view as toeing the line and what is outright cheating. Discussions like this can only strengthen a relationship as the two of you work together to find a happy medium.
Read more about cheating:
- Cheating defined
- Cheating vs an Open Relationship
- All For Threesomes!
- How to have Multiple Partners without being a Jerk
- Talking about cheating
- Chatting about cheating
- 12 tell-tale signs of cheating in women!