Personally, I like to start with some light kissing and if we aren’t already naked, pulling our clothes off each other. I love when something happens like getting your foot stuck in your jeans, or me getting stuck in my shirt. I like to feel appreciated. To know that you’re taking in my body and enjoying it. Tell me, a compliment goes a long way to building my sexual confidence and exploration with you.
Whether we are pleasing me, you or both of us, I like it start soft and build it up. If I’m pleasing you I wouldn’t start deepthroating, I’d lick, suck and stare at your eyes. I’d like the same treatment, be slow and careful and build it up. Never use your teeth, rotate between tongue movements, try. Figure 8 or your ABC’s, try using a flat tongue for general strokes and a pointed tongue for direct application. After a while work your fingers into me. Slowly exploring my insides. Never try to fit as many fingers as you can, usually one or two is more than enough. If I want any more or less I will ask.
Don’t assume my clit wants a beating, or to have its hood pulled back to be fully exposed. Read the mood. If we start slow and sensitive we can move up to whatever level we desire. But if we start at full throttle, the foreplay won’t last as long or build in intensity. After I’ve come maybe once, twice or even three times you have permission to penetrate me. I’ll be dripping wet and most likely quivering. Women love to have their skin grazed, to have men reach out during sex and stroke their face or breasts. To have a man pleasure them while also penetrating them. Honestly, a little bit of effort on the males part goes a long way for a more enjoyable time for both.