HOW TO SHOW YOUR PARTNER YOU APPRECIATE THEM...PART 1.
Being emotional humans, we find ourselves in constant need of validation, a sense of appreciation for our actions or emotional behaviour and intelligence. Feeling a sense of being appreciated is actually vital in facilitating the direction of our future behaviour. This is because when we feel we’re being appreciated we respond accordingly, in positive ways or in negative ways if we feel under-appreciated. In a work setting when we’re made to feel appreciated we tend to work harder, put more effort in because we feel a better sense of achievement. In saying that, it is the opposite when we don’t get that validation as well. The same goes for relationships, everyone needs to feel appreciated for their efforts.
It is so easy for us to get distracted with all the things that can pop up in life. One day rolls into the next and we forget the important things, the little things in a relationship that really matter to one another. We forget to show our appreciation for each other and the things we do for one another. I’m not saying that we need to paint the walls with hearts and teddy bears, or constantly spew I love you’s, no not at all. Your partner already knows you love them, well I hope they do anyway, so it’s not about validating your love, it’s about doing things for them to show you simply appreciate who they are and all that they contribution to the relationship. There are a bunch of little things you can do to show how much you appreciate your loved one.
*Surprise them with a lovely home cooked dinner and desert. If you’re not the world’s best chef, don’t stress it just get on utube and get a step by step visual tutorial. Who wouldn’t be grateful to come home to a meal that you’ve made such an effort to learn how to make just for them?! Otherwise you can easily get some take-out, a nice 3-course meal, grab a picnic basket or a tray, a flower or two, and take them out to a park by the water or some nice scenery and lay out a picnic dinner. Bring some mason jars along and place votive candles in them, lay them out around you for your own personal candle-light by moonlight dinner. The more candles the better, it’s like dining in the night’s sky, all is dark except for the smiling moon and 1-2 dozen candles are the surrounding stars. They’ll feel like they’re on a magic carpet floating in the sky.
*Learn how to do a really good foot or head massage. Goodness you’d be hard pressed to find anyone who would say no to no of those. Obviously find out if your partner is ticklish first, trust me if your partner is anything like me, you’ll be kicked in the face for your efforts the moment you grab that foot! Buy some really nice fragrant oil, maybe they have a favourite scent? Lay out the oil, a flower, a little warm bowl of water and a face towel on a tray, tell them to lay down and make themselves comfy and bring out the tray and begin your spa-like massage. This move will guarantee one of two things, a good roll in the hay, or a symphony of snoring. Either way your partner will feel amazing and super appreciated!
Now who wouldn’t feel super appreciated if their partner did something sweet and simple for them after a hard day’s or weeks work?! Don’t forget to stress why you’re doing what you’re doing, you don’t want your partner getting paranoid and making up scandalous assumptions in their mind do you? Just tell them you just wanted to do something nice for them to let them know you appreciate them and all that they do and are….simple! Oh and it doesn’t matter what sex your partner is, either sex would love being treated with one of the above at any given time.
Love Lexi XXX