WHAT TO DO ABOUT MY PARTNERS PERVING WAYS?
Listen we’re all human, we all love beautiful things and we notice things in our path that are eye catching. It’s only natural, but for most of us there’s a limit, right? I’ve always wondered what other people do when faced with the dilemma of a constant roving eye. What I do know for certain is that there’s a definite double standard when it comes to having a perv in front of your partner. When a man has a look he laughs it off, when a woman has a sneak peek her man loses it.
Like I said, there’s nothing wrong with admiring beautiful things but there’s a couple of things we have to keep in mind. So women are generally more sensitive when it comes to their men checking out other women. Firstly, we are forever insecure about ourselves so when we get offended, it’s usually a reflection of self. Secondly because we are insecure, we end up having a bunch of doubtful thoughts pop into our heads like, does he find her more beautiful, does it mean he’s likely to cheat on me, is she his ideal woman, is he still attracted to me, things like that. So men have to try to be more sensitive when it comes to checking other women out when their ladies present. Women are a little more tactful when it comes to looking, we tend to be more discreet and simply better at covert operations. But we shouldn’t underestimate our men, they’re not stupid and they can feel us checking out the opposition. And you know what, despite perceptions, men are also very insecure, it comes down to their manhood which is something of great pride in them. So women have to be more understanding about the fact that they’ll also have doubts… is she more attracted to him, is my dick too small, am I still satisfying her in bed, do I still make her happy? Yes, a man’s doubts will usually surround his sexual prowess and that’s ok.
So you see having a perv in front of your partner can cause quite a stir and created unnecessary problems. But there’s a way to work around that. Try to validate your relationship on a regular basis by letting your partner know they’re desired and loved, that you still find them attractive and irresistible. Create a secure environment for your loved one so that they don’t have to doubt the relationship if they catch you looking. Another thing is just be honest, if your partner knows how solid your relationship is then there shouldn’t be anything wrong with acknowledging another persons beauty or sexiness when you’re together. It’s just about tact, as long as you’re not being crass about it. That way you can both feel comfortable in admiring and perving on other people and when you guys get really comfortable you can have a perv together, trust me it works!
Love Lexi XXX